Maintaining Balance in Your Marriage
Updated: Jul 1, 2022
Before the ceremony, the couple was always holding hands, kissing one another, rubbing, talking on the phone, cooking meals, the guy was rushing to open all the doors, the woman was exercising like crazy to maintain her sexual appeal. They loved one another and they would do anything for their spouse to be. After the ceremony, and after buying a house and a couple of cars and a dog they realize this 'marriage stuff 'required some work.
They loved each other but with the demands of work, careers, paying bills, fitness and children it's hard for them to find time for one another.
How do you maintain your marriage? Is the love still alive? How do you keep the spice still in your marriage? What tips can you provide to help someone else who is in a love-less marriage
If you are in a love-less marriage here are a few tips:
Pray with your spouse - God has put you both together; pray together & intercede for your marriage
Have some alone time with God by yourself
Quick/Mini (10 min) Talk Sessions with your spouse - Set up 10 min only sessions with your spouse and talk to them about what you need in this marriage. Be honest. Don't go past 10 minutes
Every @2 weeks go on a date - Sometimes we think dating is getting dressed up and doing out to dinner & concert/theatre. Now, that 's great but sometimes a date can consist of putting a blanket at the park and having a picnic. Be fun. Get creative. Be innovative. This is your marriage, make it work.
Plan, plan, plan - Plan ahead for date night put it on the calendar. If you're taking a vacation make sure you plan it. Make sure he has the time off and so do you! Plan ahead and don't wait to the last minute.
Get interested in 'some' of his activities - We all married our spouse because we like different traits and characteristics about them. Well, what better way to spend time with your spouse than to get interested in 'some' of their activities. If that includes watching a football game on a Sunday, going to the wife's gym 1x day a week or even going horseback riding for the first time. The key word here is 'some.'
Practice giving genuine complaints to one another - Before we were married, I was showered with compliments from my hair, my clothing style to my shoes and purses. After we were married for a few years, why did it stop? Well, did you stop giving him compliments? Compliments go both ways. Who doesn't like to hear compliments? We all do. Give your spouse a compliment. This is one of the biggest reasons why men leave, because they do not feel appreciated.
Cook a meal together - The best way to produce some some conversation and lots of laughter is by cooking a meal together in your own home. You're getting a chance to explore how it is to work together. Working together to create small tasks are so hard. The lesson they learn are priceless. Who takes charge? Who delegates? Who listens? Who submits? Who backs-off and say I'm sorry.
Play together - Part of a marriage is having fun. As adults we work hard but we have to learn how to play together. Play together. Yes, get a water gun when he comes home from work and lit him up with the water! Play! Have fun! Laugh! Cry! Remember you're both in this together.
Have Sex - You are married! God created us for one another. Enjoy each other and spend intimate time with one another. God said be fruitful and multiply this only lets us know that in order to multiply we must engage in sexual relationships with our spouse. Sex is beautiful. Stop denying your spouse your body. Once you're married both of you should be pleasing one another.
